When Defense is Destructive
2 min readAug 15, 2022
I’ve watched for decades the way that people needing to be right, or worse, needing to be righteous, destroy the secure sense of safety necessary within their intimate relationships. The only way to win is not to play.
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about defensiveness, looking at ways in which I am a participant in destructive, relational games-of-war. Even in my own relationships with people I love dearly.
